Get the Best of Your First Hypnosis Session
Calvin D. Banyan, MA, BCH, CI
What can you do to make sure you get the most from you first hypnosis session? This is a very good question, because it is an important one for those seeking hypnosis services. An entire book or at least a chapter could be written on this topic. In this discussion I will narrow it down to two main factors that contribute to you getting the most out of your first hypnosis session.
The Hypnotist Should Help You To Feel Comfortable About Doing Hypnosis By Telling You All You Need To Know About Hypnosis
The first important factor determining your success is your choice of hypnotist or hypnosis provider. Providing you have made a good choice and your hypnotist is well trained (i.e., A Certified Hypnotist), she will know how to help you to be prepared for your first session by providing you a sufficient amount of information about hypnosis, her experience and credentials, as well as what to expect during the session, basically everything that you need to find out to put you at ease.
For most people receiving this kind of information is and important part of the process, because any experienced hypnotist can tell you, proper preparation of clients prior to the hypnosis session improves success. It improves success because preparing a client for the session helps to reduce concerns about the hypnosis process and set up an appropriate expectation of what to expect the hypnotic experience to feel like. Any fear of being hypnotized will always reduce the probability of success of any hypnosis session. An individual who has a realistic expectation of what the experience of being hypnotized will be like, will feel more comfortable and satisfied with the experience, during and after the session.
What You Can Do To Get The Most Out Of A Hypnosis Session
The next main factor that will contribute to the success in your first hypnosis session of course is you, and how you mentally approach the session. Presuming that your hypnotist has done her job well as discussed above, and you have asked all the questions you feel you need to ask, you should feel comfortable with experiencing hypnosis.
Here is what you need to do, you need to adopt an easy going accepting attitude for following instructions.
Almost all hypnotic inductions contain some suggestions for relaxation. Even the instant and rapid inductions have some kind of suggestion for relaxation. However, contrary to popular opinion, physical relaxation is not required for hypnosis to occur. It has become my opinion, after conducting thousands of hypnosis sessions, as well as supervising and training hypnotists who have conducted thousands more, that the physical relaxation is only encouraged (through suggestion) so that a kind of mental relaxation can occur. This mental relaxation is a major part of what helps you to experience the benefits of hypnosis.
This mental relaxation is sometimes called “contention.” This “contention” does not have anything to do with conflict or tension. In fact it is quite the opposite. This “contention” is a mental state where, it is as if the person in hypnosis is hanging on the hypnotist’s every word. In the Dave Elman-type inductions, there comes a point where the client is asked to relax her “mind until the numbers fade away.” When the numbers have faded away, as a result of relaxing the mind, we have guided our clients into this highly relaxed state of mind, and as a result, they can become highly suggestible, and be able to experience virtually every kind of hypnotic phenomena, from catalepsy to hypnotically induced anesthesia.
The hypnotist cannot relax your mind. She is in the role of a coach or teacher. The hypnotic induction is a way of helping you to first (generally), relax your body, and then use that relaxation as a model for relaxing your mind and creating the hypnotic state. When you follow the instructions of the hypnotist, your conscious mind become less critical of the instructions and suggestions given. Once this has been accomplished your hypnotist can help you become successful for whatever you came in to see a hypnotist for. So, it is essential that you do not, over analyze the instructions. Analysis and mental criticism is the opposite of the mental relaxation you want to create. Just as muscle tension is the opposite of physical relaxation, mental work such as rationalization and analysis is the opposite of mental relaxation.
Now we return to the idea of adopting an easy-going accepting mental attitude. Analysis and criticism is equivalent to mental work. If you are doing mental work, you are not relaxing the mind and not relaxing the mind will inhibit you going as deeply into hypnosis as you could otherwise. The deeper you allow yourself to go into hypnosis, the more benefit you will receive from each hypnosis session.
How I Helped To Make My First Hypnosis Session Successful
Let me give you and example. Even though I learned how to do hypnosis many years ago, it was only about 5 years ago when I decided that it would be beneficial for me to have the experience of being hypnotized by someone else. Up to that point, I was always the hypnotist; I had never been the “subject.” So, I contacted a hypnotist that I did know personally (I thought that would put me more at ease), and arranged a session to work on something that was important to me at the time.
As I sat waiting for my meeting with the hypnotist, some anxiety (fear) started to set in. I was not afraid of hypnosis. I was not afraid of the hypnotist; she came to me highly recommended by someone that I highly trusted. I was afraid that I would mess the whole thing up! I was afraid that I would be too analytical and be too focused on how she was conducting the session to allow the process of mental relaxation to occur. I was concerned that I would not allow contention; that I would not be able to put aside my analytical rational thinking long enough to experience what I hoped to experience.
It was then that I sat down and had a little talk with myself. It went something like this… “Okay, do you really want to do this or not? This is going to cost $80.00. Don’t go a head with this unless you are willing to follow instructions. Only you can get in the way of having some success here. So, what are you going to do? I know you are a trained scientist. I know you are a little stubborn. I know you like to be in charge and in control, but you can’t do that right now, that is not how it works. It is going to cost you $80.00 no matter how it goes.”
Then it happened. I decided, that I was going to be the best hypnotic subject that this hypnotist had ever seen! It was just a decision. But it was just the decision that I needed to make.
I had just decided that I was going to give her a chance to do her work. I was going to allow her to be in charge for a little while. I was going to follow her instructions and just adopt an easy-going accepting attitude for what ever she suggested. And, when I wasn’t sure of what to do or of what she was doing, I was going to relax entirely and give her the benefit of the doubt!
Was I doing this for her sake? No. How well I did in the hypnosis session was going to have very little effect on her life (she was going to make $80. 00 regardless). I was there because there was something that I wanted to accomplish, and the only way I was going to be able to accomplish that was to follow her instructions and to adopt that easy-going accepting mental attitude.
And, that is just what I did. I had a great hypnosis session; which included a hypnotic age regression to when I was so small I hadn’t even walked yet! It was a profound experience and an important part of my education as a hypnotist.
So, what can you do to make the most of your upcoming hypnosis session? Sit down and have a little talk with yourself, and then decide to adopt that easy-going accepting mental attitude, and to follow all of the instructions of your hypnotist without rationalizing or analyzing, really let your mind relax like your body can relax, and you will have done your part! Then you will get the very most out of your hypnosis session. That is my advice.
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